GOODBYE OCTOBER II

A year later after beginning my fashion and lifestyle blog (http://mkambalady.wordpress.com) and I mark it with a total of 1,055 views on the blog woohoo by Neil Armstrong’s words,  “That’s one small step for [a] man, one giant leap for mankind” hehehe.

It is so interesting that it is only the end of October that captures my eye guess October is my month. It’s currently raining very heavily and the drumming of the racing raindrops on the rooftop makes my mind drift off a little. Reminds me when I was about eight years old and I would stand by the window just to see the water fall as it formed streams on the ground. I would imagine all sorts of silly things, at the time I would imagine if I could go and play in the rain like the kids in movies. We would even manage to jump in slow motion like them and laugh like there is no care in the world. I love rain, it soothes me and always reminds me of one of the funniest days of my life, my saddest, as well as my most sober. Well it has been a year since the last October I said goodbye to and I feel it is time to reflect on what I have learnt so far. I am tempted to go to my last post (https://kalekyemuia.wordpress.com/2013/11/01/goodbye-october/) but for authenticity I will write this list first then you and I can compare and see have I grown or am I still where I was last October (that sound like a rock song in the making). Here goes nothing;

1. I have learnt that God is number one and everybody else including me falls after. This is a lesson that I keep re-learning over and over with each lesson stronger than the last. The reason I say this is because He has always remained a constant in my life even when I had made a mess of things. He remains the strong pillar I can rely without fear of being turned away and finding someone so mighty who can love me the way He does is a blessing I am yet to fully grasp, thank you Lord for always being there.
2. I have learnt that your family will always be the people who have known you since you were in diapers so respect their advice and seek their guidance. Being the last born comes with the blessing of seeing your siblings trials and errors and learning from them. I am very grateful to God for my loving family, I don’t know a more caring, understanding bunch than these 4 people in my life.
3. I have learnt that my mother actually knows a thing or two about life, not just my mum but all my elders. It’s not that I never knew this, I just never appreciated this fact more than now.
4. I have learnt that character is more important than all other human qualities. This has truly helped me gauge who are going into my close nit community and those who will stay back a little, with no apologies btw.
5. I have learnt that there are lessons in life everywhere we look we just have to open our minds to see them and actually learn from them.
6. I have learnt that I am the holder of my destiny, where I choose to throw my dice is where they will fall. Life doesn’t happen to you, life only responds to you.
7. I have learnt that the saying ‘ show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are’ is very true, so look around at the friends you keep, they say a lot about you. Also watch how you feel around them, trust your intuition if something is amiss do not ignore it.
8. The best test to any relationship is the test of time , true friends remain true no matter the time apart and the distance between you.
9. The glass is always half full because in life there is always room for improvement.
10. Last but definitely not least, puis will remain my favorite pet in the world hehehe. Yes he had to show up in here somewhere, I have learnt so much about life from him you would think he is a professorJ.

I will leave it at ten because anything else I add will either be a repetition or as silly as no. 10, thanks for reading and feel free to share what you have learnt this October or what you have learnt since the last. See you soon lovely people.

What Am I Doing Wrong?????

That was a refreshing read on such a beautiful Sunday, let us love ourselves today, happy Sunday everyone!

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Have you ever asked yourself (or God) that question? What am I doing wrong? Why am I not getting well? Why are all these things happening to me?

I had asked that same question this week after having another thee-day headache! I know what headaches are from… several things actually… but the main thing is self-conflict.
So, what was I doing wrong? What was my self-conflict? I began praying for forgiveness and cleansing of all sin, defilement, etc. I even forgave everyone involved in my day. But still no relief… Then as I asked God, truly from my heart, “What is it I’m doing wrong?” He immediately said, “Ask yourself, what are you NOT doing?”
As I thought on that… I realized what I wasn’t doing was loving myself!!! I knew that was right because I began tearing up. I was so busy “trying” to appease others, trying to make…

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LIFE LESSONS

I have been going through archives of some of the stuff I have written and never posted and I must say I am very proud of myself hehehe. Sometimes we forget to look in the mirror and see the beauty that truly lies within us, we sometimes forget to celebrate ourselves for who we are. Today I will share a short post I wrote a year ago and yet it is so interesting how am still learning this things, guess my mum was right learning never stops, dumn it! Well here goes nothing hope you enjoy.

I have learnt (and still learning);

That friendship is only as good as the friends you have

That hanging out with someone the whole day is healthy (this is for all  the introverts in the house)

That being yourself is so much more rewarding

That wearing short skirts does not mean am feeling cold (freez and shine syndrome)

That change is as good as a rest

That being honest is more important than being nice

That life has a lot of unexpected twists

That you need to plan for tomorrow today

That being prepared is essential to being successful

That being happy is my responsibility and no one else

That being a go getter is a good quality in life

That working hard comes from understanding what you want first

That a goal is just a dream with a deadline #drake

That everyone has there own life and we should not judge them for it

Don’t judge a book by its cover and don’t judge a family/ person by there payslip (think i read this somewhere)

That I am my own best friend

That you can learn alot about life from children and those younger than you

That you can also learn alot about life from nature (just look hard enough you’ll see it)

That there is no other me in the world so be happy and proud of that

That even cold rainy days can make you feel warm inside so smile about them

That you can not hold on to what is not yours

That everyday has worries of its own so only worry about today (Jesus talk-Matthew 6:34)

That in the end all that really matters is my relationship with God

For today this is all I have , please share some of the things you have learnt I would love to hear your story and if you resonated with anything feel free to give a virtual high five we are in this together.

FORGIVING ME

I wrote this post several months ago and I can’t believe how much it to me when spoke to me when I read it again a few days ago and I would love to share it with all of you. I hope it speaks to you as much as it has spoken to me and that you can spread the love to others.
Forgiving those who have hurt you is more about you freeing yourself than freeing the one who wronged you. It frees your mind from the burden of holding a grudge and opens you up to healing from the hurt, however we forget many at times to forgive ourselves. Every one of us has disappointed themselves at one point or another, we have regrets about the things we have done or the things we were not brave enough to do. We actually harbor grudges against ourselves and more times than none, this tends to limit your ability to truly let go and enjoy life. If you’re in constant thought of all the things you do wrong, working in fear to make sure you don’t make the same mistake again, with time this breeds bitterness and hatred and we tend to project this on others.
Hurting people hurt others, sometimes the hurt comes from the guilt and shame that hangs over our shoulders day in day out. This train only leads to more pain which we tend to either bottle in and hurt ourselves or we lash out and hurt others. If we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves then I believe forgiving ourselves and making a amends with ourselves goes without saying as crucial step towards forgiving and making a amends with others.
It is hard to accept that the ones we love and care about could hurt us, therefore it is only understandable that it is even harder to accept that we have disappointed ourselves. If we can accept that no one is perfect, why not extend the favor to ourselves and accept we are not perfect either. Let us instead of looking at how we did it wrong, learn from it and believe that we have become stronger and better from the experience. Our mistakes tend to teach us more than our successes, because for us to be successful we have to learn where our weaknesses lie and how to actually deal with them instead of hiding them away in fear of not appearing perfect before others and ourselves.
For us to be able to truly love others, we need to start with ourselves and then we can start to have an epiphany when we read the words of Marianne Williamson when he said “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measures. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”. Sleep well loved ones.