FORGIVING ME

forgive_and_forget_by_kim_1426
I wrote this post several months ago and I can’t believe how much it to me when spoke to me when I read it again a few days ago and I would love to share it with all of you. I hope it speaks to you as much as it has spoken to me and that you can spread the love to others.
Forgiving those who have hurt you is more about you freeing yourself than freeing the one who wronged you. It frees your mind from the burden of holding a grudge and opens you up to healing from the hurt, however we forget many at times to forgive ourselves. Every one of us has disappointed themselves at one point or another, we have regrets about the things we have done or the things we were not brave enough to do. We actually harbor grudges against ourselves and more times than none, this tends to limit your ability to truly let go and enjoy life. If you’re in constant thought of all the things you do wrong, working in fear to make sure you don’t make the same mistake again, with time this breeds bitterness and hatred and we tend to project this on others.
Hurting people hurt others, sometimes the hurt comes from the guilt and shame that hangs over our shoulders day in day out. This train only leads to more pain which we tend to either bottle in and hurt ourselves or we lash out and hurt others. If we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves then I believe forgiving ourselves and making a amends with ourselves goes without saying as crucial step towards forgiving and making a amends with others.
It is hard to accept that the ones we love and care about could hurt us, therefore it is only understandable that it is even harder to accept that we have disappointed ourselves. If we can accept that no one is perfect, why not extend the favor to ourselves and accept we are not perfect either. Let us instead of looking at how we did it wrong, learn from it and believe that we have become stronger and better from the experience. Our mistakes tend to teach us more than our successes, because for us to be successful we have to learn where our weaknesses lie and how to actually deal with them instead of hiding them away in fear of not appearing perfect before others and ourselves.
For us to be able to truly love others, we need to start with ourselves and then we can start to have an epiphany when we read the words of Marianne Williamson when he said “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measures. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”. Sleep well loved ones.

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THINGS AVE LEARNT FROM MY PET

1. WE NEVER STOP BEING BEAUTIFUL
I marvel everyday at how he remains so cute no matter what, when he is sleeping, when he is just seating there like pets normally do staring at nothing( then some people come up with a theory that at this times they are actually looking at ghosts haha). I mean he is so cute its almost unfair, except when we has jumped in a sewerage water, then he is just disgusting.
2. BEING BRAVE DOESN’T MEAN UR NOT SCARED
There are days when am home alone with him( which over the past couple of months this has been then norm) and he will come keep me company in the kitchen while I cook which is just wishful thinking on his part that I will somehow have the heart to give him all the meat I have prepared for supper and act like the good pet owner I should be. Then somewhere in the middle of all this he will hear someone at the gate and literally act like a dog, growl and go check out who is the uninvited guest. Am left there thinking, dude ur a cat what now ur gonna start meowing and chase them away hehe.
3. BEING A COWARD SAVES YOU ALLOT OF HEADACHE SOMETIMES
My cat will run at the first sight of children and we wont see him until they go. you see he knows that if he acts brave at this point then he will have hours of being carried by his tail, chased around, hit, grabbed, nearly choked to death and I commended him for being wise enough to know that standing up for ur ego is sometimes a cost too high to pay.
4. WE ALL ACT BARBARIC AND LOSE IT SOMETIMES
Sometime I fight with my cat over the weirdest things, crisps, my glass of milk(ok mayb I should give him milk more often), and just today we fought over a piece of cake!!!! believe me am not crazy he will just come and demand that he wants what ur eating and if u don’t give him he will grab it from ur hand as u put in ur mouth. but even in this times I will hit him then feel guilty after an hour and tell him am sorry with a hug coz in my head he is just a cat and sometimes he remembers being in the jungle where all the other animals thought he was the king’s distant cousin’s smallest child who never grows and he got everything he wanted.
5. WE ALL HAVE GIFTS THAT HELP US GET WHAT WE WANT
For him it’s a simple trick of enlarging his already huge eyes, making his voice sound as sweet as possible and rubbing his head around ur legs like a sweet little kitten- aka the art of persuasion! we all have it in us, we just need to look in the most obvious places.
6. IF PERSUASION DOESN’T WORK ITS TIME TO STATE YOUR CASE SPOT ON
My cat wont beg for long, when he realises that his pleas are not being met, he will just jump on your leg and bite( now whose boss) most of the time it just makes us angry with him but it does get the point across of how hungry he really is.
7. IT FEELS GOOD BEING WELCOMED HOME WITH LOVE
I don’t know how but he is always there when we get home, he comes to the door, meows all over the place with his tail in the air and whether or not u have meat for him he is just happy to see you back home.
8. FORGIVENESS SEALS IT ALL
Even after he annoys me to the point that I don’t want him around and I chase him away, he still comes back like nothing happened, he just never really goes away and I think this is the biggest lesson I have ever learnt from him and it always leads me to love him that much more.

so what am I saying? we were all created beautiful with or without all the superficial stuff we just need to put less emphasis on the temporary stuff and focus one the important ones. we all get scared every now and then but that doesn’t mean we are not brave and that we cannot stand up to our fears with all we’ve got but it’s also important to realise when we need to take a step back in order to retain our sanity and peace of mind(and also escape a couple of bruises). we all have the animal inside who sometimes comes out and we end up stepping on each other’s toes and crossing the line but we should never use this as an excuse to deliberately cause others to be uncomfortable and annoyed and we should accommodate one another as well, if not then just like cats do, take it outside. we all have gifts and talents that were given to us to help us get ahead in life and get what we want out of life but sometimes we need to be aggressive with our dreams otherwise we won’t be taken seriously. let us learn to appreciate one another and do the little things that make the people we love happy and know we love them, and it is as simple as a warm welcome home. lastly, lets us forgive one another that we may live in harmony and peace we learn so much more about life in this way than we do in holding a grudge. so in the end YES am the typical pet owner who speaks of their pet like a person and am happy to be one because he does make life that much more interesting- and all pet owners say meow hahahahaha!