I wrote this post several months ago and I can’t believe how much it to me when spoke to me when I read it again a few days ago and I would love to share it with all of you. I hope it speaks to you as much as it has spoken to me and that you can spread the love to others.
Forgiving those who have hurt you is more about you freeing yourself than freeing the one who wronged you. It frees your mind from the burden of holding a grudge and opens you up to healing from the hurt, however we forget many at times to forgive ourselves. Every one of us has disappointed themselves at one point or another, we have regrets about the things we have done or the things we were not brave enough to do. We actually harbor grudges against ourselves and more times than none, this tends to limit your ability to truly let go and enjoy life. If you’re in constant thought of all the things you do wrong, working in fear to make sure you don’t make the same mistake again, with time this breeds bitterness and hatred and we tend to project this on others.
Hurting people hurt others, sometimes the hurt comes from the guilt and shame that hangs over our shoulders day in day out. This train only leads to more pain which we tend to either bottle in and hurt ourselves or we lash out and hurt others. If we are to love our neighbors as we love ourselves then I believe forgiving ourselves and making a amends with ourselves goes without saying as crucial step towards forgiving and making a amends with others.
It is hard to accept that the ones we love and care about could hurt us, therefore it is only understandable that it is even harder to accept that we have disappointed ourselves. If we can accept that no one is perfect, why not extend the favor to ourselves and accept we are not perfect either. Let us instead of looking at how we did it wrong, learn from it and believe that we have become stronger and better from the experience. Our mistakes tend to teach us more than our successes, because for us to be successful we have to learn where our weaknesses lie and how to actually deal with them instead of hiding them away in fear of not appearing perfect before others and ourselves.
For us to be able to truly love others, we need to start with ourselves and then we can start to have an epiphany when we read the words of Marianne Williamson when he said “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measures. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others”. Sleep well loved ones.